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~y~
08-14-2007, 02:16 AM
For those in management, could you please provide me with some tips on how to deal with people without snappin?

Don't get me wrong ... I like my new job because it's different from my old job and I need the experience, but the growing pangs are hard. I am eager to get to the next phase of it. I working my way to a corner office and a team of 4 - 10 ppl or self employment, whichever is most lucrative first. Perhaps both? lol Anyway ....

I know with every job, there are always some things you have to deal or ignore. But people, people are a trip! Sometimes I just want to tell ppl "WTF is wrong with you?" or "Did you actually think before doing what you did or saying what you said?" People are always second guessing your judgment or your position or ability to do the job. And what makes it so bad, these are not even my peers, most of my colleagues have more experience than I. They are my mentors right now. I have people coming up to me saying "I was an assistant manager at a retail store and yada yada..." aka "I should have your job." or "I can do your job." And these are the very same ppl who you have to track down because they are not where they are suppose to be .... doing their damn job. These are the very same ppl who need an attitude adjustment in order to deal with the BS ppl like themselves put out. Ppl who get a step up in position renegading like they run the WHOLE company. That's right, like they cut the checks. They know the whole works of the business all in 2 months of service. I have to filter my thoughts too much and the filtering is more work than the work itself. Someone is going to catch me on a ripe day and I just may lose my job. Patience is a virtue that I am constantly working on.

I need to know how to deal with other people's ca ca otherwise, I'm going to start Trumping ppl left and right. "WTF? Did you just .... YOU'RE FIRED!" lol I have a big heart so it makes it extra hard. Why can't ppl just go to work, do their damn job and go home? I could give two turds if you like your job or if so and so don't know what they are doing, etc as long I can depend on you to do your job and do it well ... enough. I really hate babysitting ADULTS. My job title should be, Day/NightCare provider for 18+ year olds because that's exactly what I do. For years I avoided management for that every reason.

Incog_Negro
08-14-2007, 08:11 AM
The only advice I could give is that if you are in Management you have to grin and bear it. But to some point you can definitely say something to them if you feel they are being inappropriate on the job.

But like you said try to keep the patience thats the best thing for you ya:) Keep ya head up yahmi.

Wil Munny
08-14-2007, 09:23 AM
Whatever you do, cover your ass. Make sure you don't put yourself in a position to get sued. Use legal and HR anytime you take steps to correct professional attitudes and actions of your subs.

(--LazerScope-->>
08-14-2007, 07:14 PM
Y,

All I can say is keep your cool. It seems that your colleagues are feeling threatened by your ambition. I think they sense something in you that you'd be going places and leaving them in the dust.

All I can suggest is use that knowledge as comfort, and keep doing ya thing. Cuz you know you're doing something right when the haters start coming out the woodwork.

peace....

Bre
08-15-2007, 07:21 AM
Just fire em, fuck em. lol

Bossanova
08-17-2007, 04:01 PM
I have only one person who reports to me, and she's great. I've never had any problems with her. She's a university student. She comes in and gets the job done.

But there is one other person that I work with that behaves as if I'm her superior. She always needs my help and she's more than twice my age. It drives me nuts!! And sometimes I do want to snap.

But, ironically, I have to be thankful. Because of her I've learned to contain my professionalism even in the most frustrating situations.

Here's my advice...

First, know your boundaries. Never cross the line with a fellow employee. Don't insult them or anything.

Second, you don't have to yell, scream, or even get upset to get your point across. Be assertive, but not aggressive. If they did something wrong, let them know exactly what they did wrong and what they should've done instead. That's your responsibility as a manager.

~y~
08-17-2007, 08:20 PM
lol@ Bre ... the code word I give it is "Trump".

Thanks to all of you. I've been so good though ya'll. I promise. I ain't snapped when cats tried to challenge me. I ain't snapped when a person who plays too much when I'm trying to handle business. I ain't snapped when I have to reset a person's passwords EVERYDAY! I did, however, had an episode earlier this week when a colleague was trying to do too much and trying to tell me and the whole management staff what to do. I didn't snap, but I did let it be known that I wasn't satisfied with how the matter was handled. Just think, I've survived two cycles without snappin ... *pats self on the back*

AL-JABR
01-05-2008, 06:54 PM
NOT GIVING A FUCK HELPS ME OUT. BUT THATS JUST ME.