Grandad Past Away Yesterday 7:00 EST

[Isixes]

My mom is crying. She has been crying for 2 hours straight. It's mourning now and she is now crying again. Like he died back home in Ghana at the age of 72. My mom has not been their in a long time and what really makes her sad is that her dad told her that if he dies that she would come back and berry him (spelling) and she promised. And she has no money. She is scared to death, she does not know what to say to her family back home yo. They might make shit up saying that she does not care and she is sad.

We are Christians and believe in all might God. I don't know what to tell her. She is sad that she now belives that he is not dead, that God will bring him back from the dead like how Jesus did to Lazarus in John 11:5. But I don't know when it's God's time to go it is. And she does not believe me. She won't eat, she won't talk. She is an exteame Christian. I don't know what to tell her. He died yesterday 7:00 PM EST.

If there are people who believe in Christ, just pray for me and that some how this guy will come back from the dead, for my moms sack, though I doubt it. What should I tell my mom?

[KRUMB]

Sorry to hear that man , ain't a thing you can tell your mom , just be there for her , hug her tell her you love here etc.

[ElCount]

I was in a similar situation perhaps 6 years ago.

My mother's father died at the age of 83, and my mother had not seen him in at least 14 years at the time.

I had to fly to Taiwan to bury him because at the time my mother wasn't a citizen, the plane ticket was around $850 or so...

Before I flew my mother also cried for hours straight, every day for a long time. She didn't become religious but went to church for a funeral/memorial service and cried the whole way through, saying how disloyal of a daughter she was. She and I also took upon a Buddhist tradition to not eat meat for 7 weeks.

I oversaw my grandfather's cremation and securance at a funeral home. I was kinda displaced cuz I was 13 at the time and I'd never met my grandfather and had only spoke to him on the phone once in my life for like 1 minute.

Like Krumb said, hold her and listen to her, and talk to her (I would only hold her if you feel compelled to but that's just me). Try to do little things like cook meals for her so that she will eat, since it's your cooking.

I would do some bible study/research if I were you. Personally, I don't believe in any of that shit, I'm guessing your views aren't as extreme as hers, but even so some strong spiritual talk grounded in your grandfather's securance in Heaven will be good. Try to stay at home more even if you don't do shit at home.

Also if she can't go can you? Also perhaps you can contact your family members back home and ask them if they can sanction the trip since you guys really can't afford it. I know in Israel every Jew is allowed a free trip from the government, it seems to be a stretch, but perhaps there is some organization/institution that can cover the expenses of the trip.

Best man.

[Isixes]

Thanks guys, I really appreciate it.

[Isixes]

Just letting u know my Grandma on my dad's side just passed away. We aren't really in ah because she was 98.

[ElCount]

I hope everything turns out okay.

[wedo-syang]

Tell your mom it'll be aight and she'll see him again.....

"Save a place in heaven till the next time we meet forever"

of course it's easier said than done, but jus be there for her.......put your own interests back for a few moms and focus on your mom getting better....losing your parents is one of the most intense feelings you get...but time heals every pain

good luck

[The Bully]

Sorry for your loss